In May of 2003, I had picked up Oprah's O magazine. In the back where she comments on what I know for sure.... I came across her thoughts on mothering which moved me so much. I tore the page out and since 2003 it has been hanging on my bulletin board for some extra inspiration. The following in quotes is all in Oprah's words.
" I'm in awe of good mothers-those heroines all around me who sacrifice daily out of love for their children. In our society, we give motherhood plenty of lip service. We pat moms on the head, bring them flowers on Mother's Day, and honor them before crowds. But at the end of the day we don't extend them the same respect we would a professor, a dentist, an accountant, or a judge. Women who choose full-time mothering are often put in a box by their friends and former colleagues-a container labeled JUST A MOM.
I believe the choice to become a mother is the choice to become one of the greatest spiritual teachers there is. To create an environment that's stimulating and nurturing, to pass on a sense of responsibility to another human being, to raise a child who understands that he or she is created from good and is capable of anything-I know for sure that few callings are more honorable. To play down mothering as small is to crack the very foundation on which greatness stands.
The world can only value mothering to the extent that women everywhere stand and declare that it must be so. In our hands, we hold the power to transform the perception of motherhood. Whether we decide to work full-time while raising children, stay home with our kids, or bear no children at all, we need to understand that any put down of the decision to mother is a threat to women's choices everywhere. We should no longer allow a mother to be defined as "just a mom". It is on her back that great nations are built. We should no longer allow any woman's voice to be drowned out or disregarded. As we affirm other women, and as we teach our sons, husbands, and friends to hold them in the highest regard, we honor both the mothers whose shoulders we've stood on and the daughters who will one day stand tall on ours.
In May - and every other month of the year- I honor and thank every great spiritual teacher that goes by the name of mother."
Written by: Oprah Winfrey May, 2003
This piece impacted me in such a huge way. I had only been a stay at home Mom for 2 years at this time, and faced many criticisms. But I have learned through the years that being home is the best decision I have ever made. That it doesn't matter what the world thinks of my decision, only how it impacts my family and what they think and feel. If we constantly strive in life to please others and keep them happy, then all pieces of ourselves are lost, and all we have left is a shell.
These girls... they melt my heart...in their serious days, their sick days, their fun days and more. They are my reason for being and I cherish that each and every day. I feel the sacrifices my husband and I make every day to keep me home with them is so very worth it. :-)
One day when they read back on this post, may they never have a single doubt of how very very much they are loved and treasured.